One of Dr. Nakisher’s favorite books for helping gay men overcome shame is The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs.
From Dr. Nakisher: “I love The Velvet Rage because it addresses some of the common post coming out concerns that many gay men experience such as shame, positive self identification, addiction and depression.”
Alan Downs talks in detail about several issues including overcoming internalized shame, rejection and anger that can lead to drug abuse, promiscuity, alcoholism, depression and suicide. He outlines three stages to overcome shame and work toward emotional well-being for gay men.
We also offer counseling for gay men at our two Chicago locations: Downtown and Lakeview. If you’re experiencing shame or struggling with any of these issues, we are here to help.