As the last days of the year come to an end, it can be hard not to think of the past year and all that it brought with it. For me, the end of the year yields much reflection and the beginning of a new chapter. However, the beginning of the year also brings about the pressures of resolutions.

“New year, New me!”

A phrase often used by individuals as they embark on their plans for New year’s eve. Resolutions can be a double edged sword. For some, it allows for a sense of control, to be able to start something  at the dawn of a new beginning. I think about it as a snake shedding its old skin and trying something new. For others, it can feel like a farce, having to choose something change at a designated moment to map time. Whichever it is for you, there’s something to be garnered from reflecting on the past 365 days.

This year has brought on many hardships, stress, events that have impacted the entire world. The pandemic, further injustice within race relations, polarization of political ideologies and beliefs, an overall feeling of alienation, and a lack of safety amongst each other. Many things to reflect on, and to consider our own parts during these moments. However, these have been a part of our macro systems, and although poignant and impactful, we have all also endured grief and loss in some way within our micro systems as well. Many have lost loved ones to COVID-19 and other illnesses, many have lost jobs, and homes.  When you reflect on this year, how do you find a way to heal? This question is one I often answer and look for further guidance on. Inspirational fiction writer, poet and playwright, Sakinah Hofler noted in her TED talk that the power of creative writing, has a unique ability to help bring healing. I couldn’t agree more, having suggested many times to client’s that sometimes the best way to get out of your head is to get onto a piece of paper. However writing does not come naturally to everyone, at times we feel stuck and need some assistance. The New York times, came out with an article September, providing prompts to help reflect on this past year.

The end of the year can trigger many different things, stress, fear, and anxiety as it relates to the passing of time. But knowing that we can work through these together, with the help of others, and even with professional help can lighten the load.  There is a beautiful resiliency that lay between the chaos of this year. Take the time to reflect on it, in the upcoming days. Whether you choose to make new resolutions or to just sit with the changes that have occurred know that being present with yourself can only make you stronger. As I weave another year of joy, pain and growth into my life, I wish you all strength, courage and health in this coming new year.